Greetings to all, we are glad you are here and hope this finds you well, and in good spirit. I would like to expound on our guest writer’s article: "The Difference Between Advice and Encouragement", in a way that you can begin to see it in action, from a daily relationship, and how we all either create an upside-down world, or a right-side-up world, based on the outcome of our daily decisions, thoughts, actions (the big and little ones) and what effect they have on our lives, and all those around us.
Many years back I began to imagine being married to a man who was a good man, who would be the leader in the family and take good care of me and his family; something I had not been able to experience in this life at that time, but now realize, I was not a spiritually feminine lady, at that time, and that was why. I dreamed of having a relationship where harmony worked to create a much more peaceful and productive environment, than I was living in at the time. I began by loving myself first, and, as the dream unfolded, I starting to face the obstacles of my past actions and decisions of allowing myself to be used, abused, becoming co-dependent, independent, bossy, etcetera, that had been preventing me from realizing my dream. By first taking an honest look at myself, and what position in the game of life I had chosen, which helped to created the chaos and disharmony in the first place, I faced my fears of not being loved. Knowing this was no way to live, I made a tough decision. Relying on this new knowing I set healthier boundaries, changed body-language and welcomed the change, accepting that this was right and that the dream would be fulfilled. Up until this point in my life all that me, myself, and I, had accomplished was hurting myself, others, and creating an "upside-down world."
We have all heard the old saying, "love makes the world go 'round" (not sex), contrary to what we all have been taught by today’s upside-down society; sex and Love are not one in the same. Sex without love makes you feel worthless, used and abused. Love points us to The Ruler of The Universe, because He is LOVE. Acknowledging that He created and successfully runs the entire Universe, we should be able to trust Him to teach us how to become good and love one another. Women, if you offer a Real Man sex before marriage he will see this as a big turn off, instead of turn on, and will view you as promiscuous and untrustworthy. If you dress for sex, exposing a lot of skin, tight jeans and low neck tops, etcetera, then your body-language will most likely attract a man who has one thing on his mind, and it is not in either of your best interests. On the other hand, when you become spiritually feminine you will dress demure and feminine, learning how to attract the love of a real man, and enjoy the essence of True love, which you will deserve and enjoy. The wealth of becoming spiritually feminine is obtainable for all women. It is priceless, and I encourage each of you to seek after this special gift, if you don't already possess it, and are actively practicing it every day. For the most part, our world turns right-side-up, by me being humble and teachable, always asking for my husband’s guidance, because ultimately he Rules over me and has the final decisions on everything. I have learned that my husband is still learning how to be spiritually mature, and makes mistakes too; this is a learning process for both of us. When this happens it is my responsibility to support him in his growth, and encourage him to correct his wrongs according to God's Commandments, which will reflect his behavior back to him, making this conflict between him and God alone. By doing what is right, we ensure that God will be on our side, providing and protecting us through our husbands, as promised. By acting non-manipulative and submissive you will take yourself out of the conflict, helping him more than if you argue about who is right or wrong, or try to convince a man with Satan’s advice, like Eve did to Adam, which only leads to discord in the relationship. Hopefully, you are now beginning to "see" that by acting spiritually feminine, you have a far greater effect on the relationship. If we want to live a joyful, healthy life, it is important to put God first and foremost in all aspects of our lives, by following His perfect Laws. By doing so, you fall under His promised blessings, where He will never let you down and you will never feel alone. You will always receive His unconditional LOVE, when and IF you are ready to receive it. As we ALL have been told, "Father knows best", so it seems that The 10+2 Command-ments are a perfect guide, that everyone should follow when making decisions, and taking action, on a daily basis. The word Command-ments means commanded to obey, and they were given to us with our best interest in mind.
A mutual friend, who introduced my husband and I, had been trying for a while to get me to agree to meet him, so she shared many things about him, like his talents and pictures of him, but the one thing that really sparked my interest, because I was not interested in his looks and another bad relationship, was the fact he did not work on the Sabbaths (Saturday) for money. She said he would help people out on that day, if need be, but never charge for it. This made my decision to allow her to give him my number. He later shared with me, that prior to us meeting, while on vacation, he had cried out to God at the top of the mountain, accepting the fact that God had not placed the right woman in his life, accepting instead the solitary life he had been living with God, which he had done for over seven years. When he returned he saw her message, and he waited a while, to be sure he was supposed to call me. After nearly a week, he called me, and that's when I asked him about his relationship with Christ. Based on his answer, I had some trust in him, before actually meeting in person, publicly, and was now looking for his actions to line up with his words. He invited me to meet him for dinner one Sunday evening. Before ordering I mentioned I might have a beer, which I didn't, because the thought of finding a man who truly wanted to serve God was important to me, and I did not want to run him off. He kindly replied with compassion in his voice, "Is that what you think you need to be doing with your life?" Although I had drunk alcohol almost every day, up until I met him, that evening was when I stopped drinking. I have never had another drink since, and now I see how I was testing him, to see if he was for real, and he sure was. He suggested we study together on The Sabbaths, which I enjoyed, because he read God's Holy Word to me, and that is when my desires for alcohol, materialism, sex, vanity, money, power, etcetera began to diminish, and for the first time I felt satisfied inside. The truth is alcohol dissolves our inhibitions to abstain from sinful behaviors. Prior to meeting him, I did not want to drink, but had not been able to stop, even though I had attended church and 12 step meetings.
As the relationship grew, I could see his words lined up with his actions, as he stood firm in his beliefs. He exercised his manhood establishing healthy boundaries for our relationship. One of the greatest demonstration of his love and respect for our Creator, himself and me was when he informed me of his wishes for us to stay out of bed, insisting on saying our marriage vows to God and each other first, and then consummating our marriage on the honeymoon, thereby obeying the First Commandment to Love God first. I agreed, knowing this would take great self-control on both our parts, and we both faithfully kept our word to God and each other. As a result, he surprised me with a white rose, dipped in gold, on our honeymoon night, as a gift/symbol celebrating our purity together. Another way he did not over-step his boundaries with me, was when he knelt down to ask if he could kiss me for the first time, which touched my heart deeply and proved he was a gentleman. I liked this way of creating our world/thinking and felt the true love, that his actions were proving between us. With his masculine love and good examples, I now had hope, a sense of security, which made me feel loved and cherished, as our love grew stronger. Have you ever heard this saying? “YOU are your own worst enemy.” That is the Truth, and until we face these facts our egos will defeat us every time, keeping us from attracting and falling in love with a real man.
Learn to take action, change behaviours and set boundaries, so this kind of man will seek you out, and then you will be able to learn that your greatest power lies in your willingness to be guided by a real man. I faced-down my ego and learned to look to him for everything, especially strength and courage to continue to follow him, and this new way of learning to love each other, that he was teaching me.
When we first started dating, he had been working on a single woman's residential home for quite a while, and he told me he needed to get finished with it, and move on to others. So he asked me to help him with the work one day, which set the foundation for him to train me to be his help-meet. It was during this time that he would repeat a saying that I did not fully understand, but was willing to learn. He kept repeating it, sometimes on a daily basis, "familiarity breeds contempt". At the time I was learning how to recognize my feelings and behaviors more, with a sober mind now, a gut feeling if you will, a knowing, and trusting in this guidance. The more he would say this quote, the more I understood and put it into action, being careful to keep our healthy boundaries each day, striving to always be courteous, greeting each other with a kiss and a hug, being polite, putting the needs of others first, before my self, and learning when conflict came, to still do the same.
Through these acts of selflessness the love continued to grow, and I began to understand how to let him lovingly guide me, as our hours turned into days. The time flew by and my world started turning right-side-up. At the time we met, I had also been attending organized religion for years, but when I ask my new best friend to go with me, he said he could not do that, knowing the truth about those organizations, stating, instead, that Christ's sacrifice on the cross had abolished the priesthood, for all time. He also taught me that Christ is the ONLY teacher we need, and that He warned us about the "Traditions of The Fathers/Elders", and about not attending the Synagogues (the churches of that day). Then gave me a clear concise answer from the Scriptures for his decision, and all this Truth came together and made perfect sense, as only the Truth does, as to why I was not getting my spiritual needs met in these places. It was at this point in my life that I vowed to stop attending these organizations.
By this time we were not only best friends, but we had fallen in love with each other, spending time together when not working, which led to him asking me to marry him, and without hesitation, I knew I was in true love with him, and convinced he was my soul-mate. So I said, "Yes". He made the announcement formal, after getting the approval from my dad and his mom, followed by an engagement-ring surprise at The Grace Ranch (our future home together), and a special just the two of us dinner. We then agreed on a date and decided our marriage vows were very important to us, and agreed we wanted to be married by a pastor who would marry us under God's Royal Laws of Liberty, not the state’s licensing, as it used to be, since the establishment of this country. Keeping an open mind, he said it made sense to first ask the pastor where I had attended church. This pastor would not make an appointment for us, because we were not taking their marriage counseling, which confirmed to me, my new fiancé’s earlier words of truth about organized religion, and how it contravenes the actual Word in Scripture. This encouraged me to cancel my membership, by written notice, in an email full of Truth, to the pastor, about him and his 501c3 corporate business. I've not looked back, knowing all these decisions have been good for us both. Have you ever heard that the Truth mixed with lies is still a lie, even if the majority believes it, however the Truth is still the Truth, even if no one chooses to believe Him.
Shortly after the honeymoon, my new husband shared more about how his life had transformed, by a discovery and encounter he had with The Truth, which turned his world right-side-up, and helped form him into this real man which I now love so much. He showed me a "little book" titled, The Way home or face The Fire by JAH and shared how it made a massive impact on his life, which prompted me to read it also. What an enormous gift of LOVE and Truth this "little book" revealed to me. I had no idea that I was reading the Most Extraordinary book on the planet. Never had I heard so much Truth that was easy to read, understand and digest. I was overwhelmed and amazed, by all the answers to the questions I had had about my life, and the long awaited Truth of all things on Planet Earth; for a while it left me overwhelmed by this Love I was experiencing. It is now one of my favorite books, which I still read quite often, because I've discovered, that when you effectively apply the contents to your life, they start to turn your world right-side-up, as they have ours. This is something I freely share with other’s Beings as it has been proven to be THE KEY that unlocks the Scriptures, and has helped me immensely in my life, by correcting my way of thinking, concerning me and the upside-down world revolving around me every day.
Have you ever been told it's not what you say that matters, but how you say it. Contrary to that; what you say does matter, which became apparent to me, as I was making amends for my wrongs against my husband, after being corrected by him. He was patient and kind most of the time with his authority, until I would try to emasculate his manhood. Then he would react with loving force to defend his authority. This would happen when I would try to give him advice (society’s influence of liberating women to be man's equal, coming from Satan), which I didn't realize, at the time, destroys the masculine instincts in a man to protect and provide, normally bringing out instead a man’s animal instincts, causing discord in the relationship. Instinctively, he would enforce his strong leadership boundaries against this advice, in defense of his spiritual masculinity. It seemed, at the time, that he was being too hard on me, but, looking back, now I am glad he was, and realize it was with loving force and for good reasons. So ladies, if you desire the love of a real man in your life, instead of domestic strife and violence, then it is your husband that you should be obeying, thereby obeying Christ and God first, through him. I would apologize sincerely, and express to him my determination to change that bad behavior, thus proving it is important what you say. My newly learned behaviors worked like magic, and I encourage all women to give them a try, when you are ready to learn How to Attract a Real Man. Acknowledging his leadership, I would ask my husband what to do with possessions I no longer needed. He would give me logical choices and encouragement, with which to make a good decision, allowing my input first, and then I depended on him to make the final decisions, knowing the man should Rule Over The Woman, and her desires shall be subject to her husband.
Men are better equipped to deal with stress than women, due to the fact the man was created in God's image first, then woman was made out of the man's rib, making her the weaker vessel. Good news is: if you start to make changes where you can, in your behaviors, then there is a better chance that a real man will seek you out and marry and protect you, so you can start learning and practicing these new behaviors and beliefs, with him. The Truth is my experience with this kind of LOVE is far better, and more satisfying, than any sex I have ever experienced in this lifetime.
On one occasion he showed me a visual teaching-example that helped me so much, that I want to share it with each of you, hoping you will remember it each time you look at your hand. He called it Divine Authority, a lesson I now realize was essential for me to learn, in order for love to guide our relationship. He demonstrated this by holding his hand thumb up, he said, "the thumb represents God (The Ruler of The Universe), the index finger represents Christ (pointing The Way), the middle one is the man (real man), the ring/marriage finger is the woman/help-meet, and the pinky finger representing Satan. When the man and woman are obeying the correct order of divine authority, their world is right-side-up, resulting in harmony, love and peace in marriage. Now turn your hand/world upside-down. When the woman gives advice to the man, instead of encouragement, Satan (which means The Opposer) is now on top influencing and controlling the woman. When the man listens to the woman's advice, instead of Christ and God, like Adam did, and follows the woman, it causes him to relinquish his spiritual authority to the woman, thereby really to Satan, who is influencing and controlling the woman through her emotions, causing curses in the relationship, for being disobedient to God and Christ. Please notice God and Christ (real love) are now on the bottom and their spiritual blessing are left completely out in marriage." This is the same scenario that resulted in Adam and Eve being expelled from The Garden of Eden, and is happening every day, to everyone, everywhere around the world.
Will we ever learn? Taking an honest look at the mess this planet is in, it is obvious we have not followed God's guidance and Way, explaining why the world today is operating upside-down, full of all kinds of evil and corruption, which makes Father/God sad to see, because He LOVES each of us and is patiently waiting for you to ASK Him for His help.
The only way to correct the situation in the world, is for each of us to right the Divine Authority in our lives and relationships, starting with turning our thumbs up in our own lives, pointing to The Way to "How to Attract a Real Man" and become a spiritually feminine lady, thereby wearing his ring and taking his name, to become one flesh and his true help-meet, as it was meant to be, coming under the real man's guidance, relinquishing society’s satanic teaching of women being men’s equal, and coming under God's blessings. A great teaching about marriage can be found in "This is a Great Mystery: Marriage Guidance" by D.P. Grafton, Edited: Corrected and Supplemented by JAH. We highly recommend you read this and all the other links found here, for your own sake. Once the divine order is corrected, the man and woman begin to realize the divine blessings that Only God and Christ can bestow, creating harmony and love that flows freely. In my own experience this has become apparent over and over again, as we learn to follow God's grace/serendipity in our daily lives.
God gave us the answers to our relationship difficulties, as we were in a major crisis up until the end of this year, helping us to resolve the issues and restore the harmony in our own relationship. As I look back on my life, I realize everything I have had to deal with has helped prepare me for these opportunities today, which are guiding and encouraging women to learn Women’s True Liberation. Our lives have been transformed so much for the better, due to all these changes. It is good to know God is always here, ready to guide, teach and lend that helping hand, when we trust and OBEY Him. He is our JOY and exceeding great reward.
In Closing: May we strongly suggest you choose wisely what you follow, knowing everyone has their own free-will to choose their path in life. Hopefully you will become like a pebble that is dropped in water, making an endless wave of love, acknowledging your spiritual life depends on it. We both believe these Truths come from Christ, our spiritual leader and guide, and His Word found in the Old Testament, New Testament and Holy Koran, found for Free reading in the King of kings' Bible by JAH, and is the bedrock of our relationship. We also hope you will take the time to read and digest Lynn Paris' book, How to Attract a Real Man, which helped us both, to learn how to create more love and boundaries in our relationship, accomplishing more balance, harmony and joy in our lives. Finally we hope you will turn your world right-side-up, if you have not already done so, by first establishing your relationship with God and Christ, as your authorities in all things, becoming spiritually feminine, or men spiritually masculine, relying on God and Christ Only, to provide all of your spiritual and material needs. May God bless all your relationships. Love and Laugh, Catherine